Not Yo Average Aunties Podcast

Generation wealth: Wealth Ain’t Enough, Are You Passing Down Wisdom Too?

In this powerful episode of Not Yo Avg Aunties, Jo, Ki, and Jay break down the real meaning of generational wealth and it’s deeper than just money and assets.
They unpack the responsibility that comes with building a legacy, from financial literacy and passing down knowledge, to deciding if your kids should earn what you leave behind or simply receive it. Should wealth come with conditions? What happens when you hand someone a bag they’re not ready to carry?
With personal stories, cultural insight, and some real talk about how money affects family dynamics, the aunties challenge you to think about how you’re setting your people up for the future. Are we teaching wealth or just handing it over and hoping for the best?
Tap in for laughs, lessons, and a few uncomfortable truths as they explore what it really means to pass the torch the right way.

Double Standards & Self-Sabotage: Are You Giving Others More Grace Than Yourself?

In this raw and real episode of Not Yo Avg Aunties, Jo, Ki, and Jay get into the messy truth about double standards, self-sabotage, and the ways we often hold others to expectations we don’t even meet ourselves.
Are you quicker to forgive a friend than you are to forgive yourself? Do you demand perfection from others but extend grace to your own slip-ups or is it the other way around? The aunties unpack personal stories, call themselves out, and drop gems about self-awareness, accountability, and emotional growth all with their signature blend of humor and heart.
This one will have you laughing, nodding, and checking yourself (in the best way). Tap in and join the convo on how to stop moving the goalposts and start holding space for real accountability.

Would You Date the Old You? A Raw Look at Our Relationship Habits

In this episode of Not Yo Avg Auntie’s Podcast, the aunties get real and ask a bold question: Would you date the past version of yourself? From messy dating patterns to questionable standards, Jo, Ki, and Jay unpack how much they’ve grown (or not) in love and relationships.
 
They reflect on how their younger selves showed up in relationships. Were we clingy? Too chill? Addicted to chaos? and what those old habits reveal about who they are today. This is a no-holds-barred convo on self-awareness, emotional maturity, and whether we’re truly ready for the love we say we want.
Expect laughter, accountability, and maybe a few hard truths as the aunties explore what it means to outgrow your old dating self and become the kind of partner you’d actually date. Whether you’re boo’d up or in your healing era, this episode will have you thinking twice about your past choices and maybe your current ones too.

Do you REALLY need to struggle first to be successful?

In this episode of Not Yo Avg Auntie’s Podcast, the aunties unpack our community’s complicated love affair with the struggle. Why do some folks feel like if they’re not grinding 24/7, they’re not worthy of success? Why do some parents think their kids have to suffer just because they did?
Jo, Ki, and Jay keep it real about how hustle culture, generational trauma, and “no days off” mindsets can trap us in cycles of burnout and struggle. From wearing stress like a badge of honor to confusing chaos with character-building, the aunties dig deep into why so many of us resist ease and how that mindset is costing us peace, health, and happiness.
They talk about:
The pressure to always be grinding
Struggle Olympics in families and relationships
Self-sabotage disguised as “being humble”
Learning to embrace ease without guilt
This episode is a word for anybody who grew up hearing “nothing comes easy” and is finally ready to believe that everything doesn’t have to be hard.

Family Gatherings Gone Wild: Mess, Memories & Mac and Cheese Wars

You already know family gatherings don’t come without a little mess and a lot of laughs. In this episode of Not Yo Avg Auntie’s Podcast, we’re spilling all the sweet tea and petty punch from the family functions that had no business being that chaotic. From the cousin who showed up with extra kids no one knew about to the great mac and cheese debate (because somebody’s was dry), we get all the way real about reunions, cookouts, and those “what just happened?” moments.
We’re talking about:
Surprise guests and shady attitudes
Hoarding to-go plates like gold
The behind-the-scenes stress of planning family events
Why some family functions need a DJ & a referee
Pull up a chair, grab a plate, and join us for a hilarious, heartfelt convo about the beauty and the madness of family. Because no matter how messy it gets, there’s no place like home.

Unpacking “Daddy Issues”: The Real Story Behind the Label

In this episode of Not Yo Avg Auntie’s Podcast, Jo, Ki, and Jay get real about the phrase that’s been weaponized against women for decades -  “Daddy Issues.” But we’re flipping the script.
For years, folks have thrown that term at women like it’s shade, not realizing it’s way deeper than what they think. We’re breaking down the real reasons behind the phrase absent dads, emotionally unavailable fathers, toxic step daddies, or the “he was there but not really” types. 
Jo, Ki, and Jay unpack how father wounds show up in relationships, dating, self-worth, and even your job. We’re talkin’ emotional baggage, people-pleasing, abandonment triggers, and how to stop letting your past play puppeteer in your grown-ass life.
This conversation is about more than blame, it’s about breaking cycles, healing forward, and not letting anyone reduce your story to a one-liner.
It’s time to stop carrying what your father didn’t know how to hold.

Reclaiming Your Creative Spark (Even If It’s Been Years)

In this episode of Not Yo Avg Auntie’s Podcast, we’re talking all things creativity, the kind that used to light you up before life, bills, and burnout got in the way.
From sketching and sewing to creative problem-solving and passion projects, we’re diving into how creativity isn’t just for artists, it’s for everybody.
The aunties get real about what held them back (fear, money, and perfectionism) and what it took to get back to doing the things they love. Whether you’re feeling stuck, out of practice, or think it’s “too late,” this conversation is your reminder that your creative side never left, you just need to tap back in.
Expect laughs, a few “aha” moments, and permission to start messy. Because creativity isn’t just about making something beautiful, it’s about reclaiming your joy.

Sisterhood or Silent Sabotage? Let’s Talk About It

Do Black women really support each other—or is it all for the ’Gram?
In this raw and real episode of Not Yo Avg Auntie’s Podcast, we get into it: the unspoken tension, the quiet competition, and the beautiful bond that can exist between women, when we drop the ego and lean into sisterhoodThe aunties share personal stories from a recent retreat that reminded them just how powerful we are when we come together. They unpack the roots of distrust among women, the impact of societal messaging, and the real work it takes to build authentic connections, beyond the performative.
Whether you’ve been burned by a “sis” who secretly hated or you’re looking to deepen the bonds in your circle, this episode is your call to build, support, and show up for your tribe in a real way.
💬 We’re talking:
Healing the hidden rivalry in friendships
Building trust and vulnerability in women’s circles
Why social media “support” isn’t enough
Creating community rooted in truth, not competition
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Do Parents Really Have a Favorite Kid?

In this episode of Not Yo Avg Auntie’s Podcast, we’re getting into the messy, unspoken truth: Do parents really have a favorite? Jo, Ki, and Jay unpack the dynamics of parenting, favoritism, and sibling rivalry in a way only aunties can
We’re talking:
👀 What favoritism looks like (even if it’s “unintentional”)
😩 How kids pick up on the subtle differences
💬 The difference between equal love and different bonds
🧠 How therapy and honest convos can break the cycle
Plus, we share personal stories and perspectives on how family roles, like being the oldest, the baby, or the “responsible one”, shape emotional connections between parents and kids.
Whether you’re a parent, a favorite, or the “forgotten one,” this episode will have you reflecting, laughing, and maybe even texting your mama like “so what was that about?”

Fighting Battles Nobody Sees: Success, Struggles & Spiritual Survival

This week, the Aunties get into the real work, the kind you don’t always post about. We’re talking about battling doubt, breaking generational expectations, and navigating what success actually means.
From feeling the pressure to show up for family, to questioning if you’re doing “enough,” this episode unpacks the mental, emotional, and spiritual weight so many of us are carrying in silence.
What does success really look like for YOU?
Can you be financially stable and still feel unfulfilled?
And how do you stay spiritually grounded when life is lifing?
 
The Aunties share what keeps them sane, from journaling and prayer to creating boundaries and blocking out the noise. Because not every battle needs to be broadcast on social media… but it does need to be faced.