Not Yo Average Aunties Podcast

Sisterhood or Silent Sabotage? Let’s Talk About It

Do Black women really support each other—or is it all for the ’Gram?
In this raw and real episode of Not Yo Avg Auntie’s Podcast, we get into it: the unspoken tension, the quiet competition, and the beautiful bond that can exist between women, when we drop the ego and lean into sisterhoodThe aunties share personal stories from a recent retreat that reminded them just how powerful we are when we come together. They unpack the roots of distrust among women, the impact of societal messaging, and the real work it takes to build authentic connections, beyond the performative.
Whether you’ve been burned by a “sis” who secretly hated or you’re looking to deepen the bonds in your circle, this episode is your call to build, support, and show up for your tribe in a real way.
💬 We’re talking:
Healing the hidden rivalry in friendships
Building trust and vulnerability in women’s circles
Why social media “support” isn’t enough
Creating community rooted in truth, not competition
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Do Parents Really Have a Favorite Kid?

In this episode of Not Yo Avg Auntie’s Podcast, we’re getting into the messy, unspoken truth: Do parents really have a favorite? Jo, Ki, and Jay unpack the dynamics of parenting, favoritism, and sibling rivalry in a way only aunties can
We’re talking:
👀 What favoritism looks like (even if it’s “unintentional”)
😩 How kids pick up on the subtle differences
💬 The difference between equal love and different bonds
🧠 How therapy and honest convos can break the cycle
Plus, we share personal stories and perspectives on how family roles, like being the oldest, the baby, or the “responsible one”, shape emotional connections between parents and kids.
Whether you’re a parent, a favorite, or the “forgotten one,” this episode will have you reflecting, laughing, and maybe even texting your mama like “so what was that about?”

Fighting Battles Nobody Sees: Success, Struggles & Spiritual Survival

This week, the Aunties get into the real work, the kind you don’t always post about. We’re talking about battling doubt, breaking generational expectations, and navigating what success actually means.
From feeling the pressure to show up for family, to questioning if you’re doing “enough,” this episode unpacks the mental, emotional, and spiritual weight so many of us are carrying in silence.
What does success really look like for YOU?
Can you be financially stable and still feel unfulfilled?
And how do you stay spiritually grounded when life is lifing?
 
The Aunties share what keeps them sane, from journaling and prayer to creating boundaries and blocking out the noise. Because not every battle needs to be broadcast on social media… but it does need to be faced.

Sip or Spill: The Juicy, Taboo Questions We Usually Keep to Ourselves

What happens when the Aunties ask the messy, uncomfortable, and straight-up forbidden questions most people won’t touch? In this no-holds-barred episode of Not Yo Avg Auntie’s Podcast, Jo, Ki, and Jay dive into “Sip or Spill”, a game where they either answer bold questions or take a sip and keep it pushing. Spoiler: drinks were poured. 🍷
From infidelity and insecurities to emotional debts and petty boundaries, we’re saying the quiet parts out loud with laughter, shade, and real talk in every sip.
 
💬 Would you stay with a cheater if no one ever found out?
💰 Who still owes you closure or a copay for your therapy?
👀 What’s a petty hill you’re still willing to die on?
 
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Pull up a drink, hit play, and ask yourself: Would you sip… or spill?

What Will the World Look Like in 2045? Our Bold Predictions

In this futuristic (but very much grounded) episode of Not Yo Avg Auntie’s Podcast, we’re putting on our vision goggles and asking the big question: What will the world look like in 2045?
From flying cars and AI-powered everything to deeper conversations about race, wealth, and equality, we’re making bold, unfiltered predictions about the next 20 years. Will there be more Black billionaires? Will the wealth gap finally shrink or stretch wider? Will education evolve or stay stuck?
Jo, Ki, and Jay dive into everything from digital IDs and smart cities to media manipulation, generational shifts, and the role of community in shaping what’s next.
We don’t have crystal balls, but we do have strong opinions, receipts, and a little bit of shade.
 
🎧 In this episode, we unpack:
🚀 What tech might actually change our lives
💰 Black wealth, billionaires & systemic barriers
📺 Media control and the messages we’re fed
📚 Education, identity & raising the next generation
⚠️ And what might go very wrong if we’re not paying attention
Because 2045 ain’t that far and the future is being shaped right now.

Protect Your Peace: How to Stop Letting Folks Play with Your Emotions

In this episode of Not Yo Avg Auntie’s Podcast, we’re talking all about emotional control because let’s be real, people will try you, but they don’t have to shake you.
Jo, Ki, and Jay break down how to protect your peace in a world that stays doing too much from that passive-aggressive coworker to the person who cuts you off in traffic and waves like they were right. 😒
We’re sharing real-life moments where emotional control (or lack of it) could’ve gone left, but didn’t. We talk about how to respond instead of react, why setting boundaries is crucial, and how knowing your triggers can help you avoid a meltdown.
Whether you’re dealing with workplace drama, relationship tension, or just trying not to let Instagram comments get to you, this episode is your blueprint for moving smarter, not louder.
🎧 Tune in to hear:
🧠 The difference between emotional reactions and habitual responses
🚫 How to stop letting other people hijack your energy
👀The power behind keeping calm when they expect you to snap
💬 And why sometimes the best clapback is silence
Because controlling your emotions isn’t about being cold, it’s about choosing peace over chaos, every single time.

Scroll, Block, or Clap Back? Navigating Social Media with Intention

In this episode of Not Yo Avg Auntie’s Podcast, the aunties are talking about how to survive and thrive in the chaos that is social media without losing your mind or your identity. Jo, Ki, and Jay dig into the real-life impact of online interactions and the importance of knowing when to scroll, block, or clap back. From Tabitha Brown’s elegant responses to online shade, to the silent strength of saying nothing at all, we’re breaking down how to keep your peace in a world that’s always watching.
We’re sharing stories, setting the record straight on online boundaries, and calling out the pressure to perform perfection. Whether you’re posting, lurking, or taking a break, this conversation will have you thinking twice before hitting “reply.”  
We're talking about:
•How to set boundaries on and offline
•Using social media without losing your sense of self
•When to respond and when to let folks talk to themselves
•Why silence is sometimes the strongest clapback of all Because not every comment deserves your energy and sometimes, the real flex is just hitting block and moving on.

Test Driving Relationships: Living Together, Sleeping Together, and Committing Without the Ring

In this episode of Not Yo Avg Auntie’s Podcast, the Aunties ask: Should you test drive a relationship before committing? Whether it’s living together before marriage, having sex before exclusivity, or just figuring out if you’re truly compatible, Jo, Ki, and Jay break it all down, no filter.
We’re talking:
•Long-term relationships without the legal ties
•Societal double standards (yes, women still get judged 👀)
•The pros and cons of “playing house”
•And how to stay honest with yourself and your partner
If you’ve ever wondered whether testing the waters leads to forever or just delays the inevitable, this episode is for you. Tap in for laughs, real talk, and grown woman gems on love, commitment, and knowing what works for you.

Reality TV: Scripted Chaos or Authentic Mess?

This week on Not Yo Avg Auntie’s Podcast, Jo, Ki, and Jay are pulling back the curtain on reality TV! Is it really real, or just scripted chaos dressed up as drama? The aunties dive into the juicy world of producers, manipulated storylines, and how much of what we see is actually authentic.
They reflect on how fame, race, and identity show up in the world of unscripted TV and how it compares to their own experience keeping it real on the mic. Would they ever do reality TV themselves? What would need to change for them to even consider it?
Tune in for unfiltered thoughts, laughs, and side-eyes as they explore whether reality TV is just messy fun or a cultural mirror that needs a little Windex.

Adapting To AI Is Crucial For Staying Relevant Today

In this episode of Not Yo Average Auntie’s Podcast, the aunties are diving headfirst into the world of artificial intelligence. Jo, Ki, and Jay draw thoughtful parallels between today’s AI boom and the internet explosion of the ’90s, back when folks were side-eying email and unsure if the web was here to stay.
We explore the very real fears and misconceptions surrounding AI, from concerns about job loss and automation to the fear of losing human connection. But just like any major shift in technology, this moment is really about how we adapt, evolve, and learn.
We share our own experiences with AI: how it’s simplifying everyday life, impacting creativity, and shifting the job market. But we also don’t shy away from the risks, especially for vulnerable communities facing scams, fraud, and misinformation in this new digital landscape.
Whether you’re AI-curious or AI-anxious, this episode offers real talk about embracing the future, staying sharp, and protecting your peace in a world that’s moving fast.
Tune in to hear:
The pros and cons of AI from a real world lens
How automation is shifting the workplace
What to look out for when it comes to scams and shady tech
Why understanding AI is no longer optional....it’s necessary
Because ready or not AI is here! Better learn more about it or be left behind.